I was going to talk about Kindness this month, however I bumped it onto December, as if there were ever a month that Kindness plays a huge role, it is within the month of December. Loneliness is also a word I hear shared a lot around this time of year and it is understandable, as during times when people are being forced to make merry, it is when the feeling of loneliness becomes prevalent, but is it for everyone?
As most of you know about me, I am a bit of a fan of Literature, and reading. Therefore this article will generally refer to some books that I have been reading of late. The first story mentioned I am afraid to say, I still haven’t read. I am so bad.
I attended a seminar at the local university, a Culture Café seminar covering Charlotte Bronte, Gaskell and the sense of the word Loneliness, back 5th December 2015. I hadn’t yet mastered the keyboard to place two dots above the e, in a blog I wrote in early 2016, some aspects are important in literature, and the two dots were important in Bronte, but with practice and an obsession to find the answer, it would eventually happen.
The Lecture was very interesting and although I hadn’t read the book Sylvia’s Lovers, have you? The experience in been at the lecture and hearing the mind and perception of a ‘lonely’ female (f) perspective in 19C England was sad, yet all embracing, all through the opinion of Francis (the lecturer) who had to inject the odd light humour to avoid the seminar portraying as a tragedy. It was very interesting to reach a conclusion that the word Loneliness can be re-categorised to suit the period and highlight the gender of the character as being female.
Personally, before attending this lecture I hadn’t ever considered Loneliness to be a pure female emotion, silly me! I believed it was a unisex issue especially in the 21st Century. Especially when we consider other literature, Classic Children’s Literature that I have been discussing as part of the #intuitiontues . Defoe’s Robinson Crusoe is a alone, abandoned and friendless on his Island. J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter is rejected by his extended family and lacking in companionship until he later attends school. Do I need to talk about The Secret Garden, of course not. It is evident in each of these three fantasy stories, that loneliness literally is no longer a unique individual female issue, it is an emotion that affects the masses, over both gender and cultures.
What is Loneliness exactly? I have tried to answer this question over on the (f)ilosophy website. If you want to know more, head over here.
In my (f) opinion in the present day, November 2016, in a generalised sense, loneliness is an emptiness, a loss or being lost; a hard-ship, a suffering that can spiral individuals into a period of deep rest. Medical practitioners may even assume loneliness to be a form of depression.
Thankfully, modern day loneliness can be perceived as very different to that of 19C literature and if we go further backwards into the world of books, when the Male Masters had not yet conjured the word Loneliness; thoughts and feelings of a sense of loneliness were unexplained, maybe misunderstood.
Loneliness was once something quite unique and individual,
and still today incurs diverse reactions to it, for each and everyone.
From a perspective as a writer, a deep rest is essential, a solitude, it is not loneliness, it is choice for isolation and a silence which is sought in order to develop the creative part of the brain and map out a world of escapism upon pages for
: the printing press
: maybe a personal diary for a point of reference
: even to capture a descriptive snapshot that tells a story for an article
: As I write – right now!
Sometimes people are forced into a lonely space, at other times people choose to isolate themselves from peers and opinion, and it is when we are able to undestand the true meaning of what loneliness is, that we are able to embrace it, because it is a time to embrace the true you whether you’re male or female.
It’s good to know when people feel lonely the sun will still rise, the night will still fall, and there is always a good book around, to escape from it all.
I’m afraid I can’t recommend Sylvia’s Lovers, as I haven’t read it. But, thank you Charlotte Brontë – “Wooh Hoo…. I found the symbol!” – and Francis. There have been many benefits in considering the word loneliness, learning something new every day.
Now, back to Solitude!